My wife and I met in our early 40’s and married after a year-long, Seattle to Chicago courtship. Typical of Christian weddings, our minister’s homily spoke of the 3-stranded cord, unity, cleaving, and becoming one flesh. To conclude the marriage ceremony, he cited the command of Jesus “what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Mark 10:9).
Twenty-five years since we lit our “unity” candle, it’s clear our guests didn’t listen to the minister’s homily nor take to heart Jesus charge not to separate us. Were it the only time any of them heard the message of marital oneness, I might understand their ignorance. But the fact is, the unity message is proclaimed at nearly every Christian wedding. Thus it begs the question how people can be so heedless as to begin competing for influence over a newly wed couple the moment they say “I do” with intent to conform them to their own selfish expectations.
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