The topic today is deeply personal for me; one that many believers are forced to reckon with when their spouse abruptly leaves the marriage for someone else. Bearing no fault, the wronged spouse is still subjected to a kind of leper treatment by family and friends who pull back, take sides and judge harshly. If children are involved, the grandparents turn every family event into a kind of intervention to advocate for their interests. What little visitation time a court grants to the father must now be shared with grandparents. Most hurtful was missing my daughters who were daddy’s girls and wanted to live with me. But since we had been a single-income family and my ex-wife a stay-at-home mom, the court refused to upset the status-quo even if the decision meant placing the girls in a very unhealthy environment. Someone has to bear the brunt of punishment meted out in a divorce and that, was me.

Forced to endure Job-like devastation I ran to the Lord with my broken heart and crushed spirit. He made His presence known in the midst of the fire and has remained close ever since. Like Job, I can look back and see the hand of God who restored me completely, and then some. How great is He who makes all things work together for good of those who love Him and whom He calls for His purposes.
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